Autistic Philosophy 27, Not Certain Death!

Real life often requires the autistic person to operate inside danger areas. I think that we must work for social accommodation of our needs! A society just a bit mindful of our sensory issues would be so much less likely to stress us to the limit. A society with fewer autism unfriendly social conditions would allow us a far better chance to use our talents to the fullest, and to succeed in life. But even at its best, I would guess that most of our interactions with the real world will be less than fully satisfactory to us. We are a small minority after all. We cannot demand a total reconstruction to our standards. Well, we probably could demand it, we would be unlikely to be granted it!
Until society fits us perfectly; wait a minute here – until society fits each specific one of us perfectly, we are not the same – then each one of us will suffer from ill fit into the real world. That ill fit will cause us to operate within danger areas! Sorry.
But, as stated in the previous blog, danger does not necessarily mean sudden death. Danger is just that, it is a probability. Care must be taken to manage probabilities. So here are a few specifics that an autistic person might want to do:
1. Find your danger areas! A person can go through a lot of life and still not know and understand consciously one’s flight characteristics. Sure we auties are all the same. . . enough that we can be tossed into a labeled conceptually defined group. . . but you are not quite like any other. You must test fly yourself and locate the things that are real problems to you. You cannot avoid a bad area of your H V Curves without some exploration.
2. When exploring the edge of your capabilities keep in mind that when you crash, you live! Sure, crashing into meltdown sucks big time, but it is not really exactly like crashing a helicopter. You can crash again another day!
3. Then manage the risk. Let me leave you with one example from my own life. When doing architecture I sometimes must meet clients. That is a very stressful social interaction with all my typical issues ready to turn the meeting into a fiasco and me into a doufass! Such a meeting will, even if I manage to cause it to go well, leave me melted down. I know this ahead of time and so can plan for it. I like to be certain that I allow sufficient time for the meeting, and then plan for an off duty remainder of that day.
I find that if I try to accomplish anything following a client meeting, that I am nearly certain to make a mess of it. So I plan to do naught after the meeting. I can melt down in peace. If I am at all busy, I then like to schedule the client meeting for late in a day. That way I lose less productive time to the melt! If I melt at ten ayem I lose nearly a whole day whereas if I melt at four pee-em I lose so little productive time.
And that is to say that if you mist operate in danger, you may as well prepare a place to crash!

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